Donor to Recipient

Congratulations on your little one to be. There is a poem which reads “Babies are born trailing clouds of glory.” I hope your baby brings you much happiness and joy. I’m glad that I was able to help with your conception. Having a baby is one of the most beautiful and continually fulfilling experiences I think a person can have. I hope so much for you that the pregnancy works out and remember, during the worst part of all this -labor-it’s all worth it! Wishing you lots of happiness—and sleep!

It has been a few weeks since my part in this whole process has been over and I’ve hesitated writing because, this may sound silly, but it all seems too important to put into words. But I would like to thank you for choosing me in such a special life decision. Your letter was so sweet and really helped push me forward when those hot flashes started getting to me. I found this to be one of the most emotionally fulfilling things I have ever done. Every day I would rub my bloated stomach and say, “OK, now let’s make some big, strong, healthy eggs.” And then I would close my eyes and make a silent little wish that your dream would come true. I know the devastation of not having that one thing you want most. I hope so much that this works out for you.

I just spent a week with my sister’s three kids and I can’t imagine anything more incredible than having children in our lives. Since the cycle began, I’ve felt really wonderful about the fact that I’ve been helping contribute to something that ultimately could make a miracle happen. I don’t know about you, but for some reason I keep thinking “twins!” Whatever the outcome, I’d like you both to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. My very best wishes to you…and yours!

It is the evening before “our” retrieval and I sit here thinking so very much about you, as I have done often over these few weeks. I must admit that this has been a rather difficult cycle for me (and I know how familiar you are with all of the discomfort!), but when I think of you and your family and all that may hopefully lie ahead of you, I am overwhelmed with gratitude, for I have loved sharing this experience with you. I wish you much joy and happiness and I send you my love.

I was so thrilled when I received your letter. It was so very moving and I thank you for that. In the past, I have never thought about the idea of making a contribution to someone’s future happiness, but when I read your letter, I truly felt how much you desired a family. I realized that I might be able to help that desire be fulfilled. I feel your desire, passion, and love for a family, and it only makes me hope that at some point I may come to experience that same desire myself. It must be an incredible experience to give birth to your own child, and I want nothing more than for the procedure to be an absolute success for you. I have all the faith in the world that it will, and that 9 months from now you’ll be giving birth to a beautiful baby…